One of my office friends (not naming her) told me once she gets bouts of anger very often and easily, though her anger vanishes pretty soon. She asked me will it affect her relationships.
I told her she indeed is very lucky that she is able to express her anger. The best part about her anger is that it evaporates quickly (without much damage)!! Think of those, who are not able to express their anger and keep piling their negative emotions, only to vent it out together, damaging and destroying their relationship with such heavy baggage of negativity.
It is important in a relationship to show anger. It is equally important to fight if you ever feel there is a need for that.
I feel that if a relationship is important, fights are bound to happen. One can not have a relationship with absolutely no fights. We express anger because somewhere we know that the other person will not reject us for anything we are saying because he disagrees with us.
It is valid for any relationship- spouses, siblings, sons, daughters, girl/boyfriends/ good friends, will have its share of times when there are going to be disagreements. If the relationship is healthy enough, it will survive. In fact it will emerge stronger after the fight and disagreement is sorted out.
What is scary is when people don't fight. That is disastrous in a relationship. The indifference to react to disagreements can kill the relationship. It means your relationship has deteriorated so much that now you just don't care. That, for sure, is the sound of death-knell of the relationship.
I am lucky that I have friends to whom I can say anything without the fear of them getting judgmental. I am thankful to them.
Fights are good as they help you resolve conflicting issues. Fights are important in a healthy relationship.
But fights to a relationship is like wind to fire. A little quickens it but too much extinguishes it!
© Written by Garima Mahajan
Very true... Another point is how passionate one is about the relationship(if its not a blood relationship) which is inversely proportional to the time taken to absorb the fact that u just had a fight and becoming normal with more concern about finding out or trying to know whether the other person has recovered from it.
ReplyDeleteshowing indiference is also atype of anger so u can say its nt d end of relationship,as u must hav heard jiyo ya maro meri bala se though d most civilised dont say it rather they keep quiet.but at d end every body should hav d liberty to shout as it is healthy :-)
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