A friend asked me once- 'Is it okay to have an affair, if you are married?' My mind instantly said- 'NO, NEVER.' The conversation ended there. My reaction to my friend's question was what majority of us would say. But then, come to think of it, we have only one life to live. So in this one life, how important is to strive for happiness? Also, if you do your 'duties' as a spouse and it still does not make you happy, would you be 'wrong' if you look for happiness elsewhere? If your soul is not happy, will it not rot and stinge? And finally, what to do if the 'affair' is the only solution to your happiness?
An affair, just like a marriage, is also a relationship. Like marriage, it comes with its set of 'dos' and 'don'ts'. Now if the 'conditional' affair gives you happiness or not, is a choice that you take. The 'only' saviour situation I can think in a 'conditional' affair is that if the spouse does not know of the affair. One can 'always' go back to the marriage if the affair does not work out- the same marriage outside of which one was finding happiness!
I am not moral policing here. I just feel every relationship goes through phases. Growing apart and being disconnected from each other is also a phase in a committed relationship. How you deal with each phase determines your relationship, and in a way, your 'happiness' too. Also, as adults we are responsible for our choices- our choice of having an affair and the choice of the person with whom to have an affair.
Daily living takes its toll. Many succumb. It is only human to do so. It is their life and their choice too. And more than anything else, everyone has 'their' own reasons to do what they do and making their life what they want it to be.
Like what I have always believed, 'If you are happy, may it stay that way. If you are not, may be it is time to think'.
© Written by Garima Mahajan
An affair, just like a marriage, is also a relationship. Like marriage, it comes with its set of 'dos' and 'don'ts'. Now if the 'conditional' affair gives you happiness or not, is a choice that you take. The 'only' saviour situation I can think in a 'conditional' affair is that if the spouse does not know of the affair. One can 'always' go back to the marriage if the affair does not work out- the same marriage outside of which one was finding happiness!
I am not moral policing here. I just feel every relationship goes through phases. Growing apart and being disconnected from each other is also a phase in a committed relationship. How you deal with each phase determines your relationship, and in a way, your 'happiness' too. Also, as adults we are responsible for our choices- our choice of having an affair and the choice of the person with whom to have an affair.
Daily living takes its toll. Many succumb. It is only human to do so. It is their life and their choice too. And more than anything else, everyone has 'their' own reasons to do what they do and making their life what they want it to be.
Like what I have always believed, 'If you are happy, may it stay that way. If you are not, may be it is time to think'.
© Written by Garima Mahajan
wow, interesting.. I like every bit of what come out of ur curvy head...
ReplyDelete@Akki: Thanks, just that my thoughts are curvy, not the head :)!!!
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