Sometimes you do all that you can to save something you treasure. Possibly everything that you would not have done under any situation. You reasoned, cajoled, argued, fought, cried but nothing seems to go your way.
Everything you say or everything you do is going against you.
You know the other person is wrong. But everything you are doing to save it from failing, is damaging it further. Things are just refusing to change.
What do you do in times like these?
You let it go. You accept that anything you say or do will not make any difference for now.
It happens a lot with me. I can say this (thanks to my experiences in life) that when I try to make things work, they just don't. The best I can do (also the most difficult part) at that time is to stop trying. It takes a lot of patience (which I lack), understanding (which is a two-way process, and hence is not easy to find), maturity (which is a relative term) to understand things and leave them the way they are.
Once you are ready to leave things which are not changing, you are set to accept the reality. The first day is the most difficult one, but slowly you start coming to terms with life. Slowly you start being at peace with yourself. Slowly you begin experiencing that it was just not meant to be. And whatever is meant to be is happening and will happen.
This by no means is saying that don't reach out for your dreams. It just means that you are tired of fighting for something, your patience has given up and you decided to take it easy for a while.
People who don't understand and walk away from you at that time are not worth your affection. And people who understand your situation and stay on with your are your true treasures. By all means, thank them and hold them tight in your life. They will never leave you!
With time you realise that sometimes, the best way to deal with life's problems is to just leave them the way they are.
Until you find peace with yourself, remember what Albert Schweitzer said once, "Eventually all things fall into place. Until then, laugh at the confusion, live for the moments, and know EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON".
© Written by Garima Mahajan
Everything you say or everything you do is going against you.
You know the other person is wrong. But everything you are doing to save it from failing, is damaging it further. Things are just refusing to change.
What do you do in times like these?
You let it go. You accept that anything you say or do will not make any difference for now.
It happens a lot with me. I can say this (thanks to my experiences in life) that when I try to make things work, they just don't. The best I can do (also the most difficult part) at that time is to stop trying. It takes a lot of patience (which I lack), understanding (which is a two-way process, and hence is not easy to find), maturity (which is a relative term) to understand things and leave them the way they are.
Once you are ready to leave things which are not changing, you are set to accept the reality. The first day is the most difficult one, but slowly you start coming to terms with life. Slowly you start being at peace with yourself. Slowly you begin experiencing that it was just not meant to be. And whatever is meant to be is happening and will happen.
This by no means is saying that don't reach out for your dreams. It just means that you are tired of fighting for something, your patience has given up and you decided to take it easy for a while.
People who don't understand and walk away from you at that time are not worth your affection. And people who understand your situation and stay on with your are your true treasures. By all means, thank them and hold them tight in your life. They will never leave you!
With time you realise that sometimes, the best way to deal with life's problems is to just leave them the way they are.
Until you find peace with yourself, remember what Albert Schweitzer said once, "Eventually all things fall into place. Until then, laugh at the confusion, live for the moments, and know EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON".
© Written by Garima Mahajan
happens with me all the time ... but the bitter truth is ... sometimes its the best to become (cliched) "practical" ... accept the reality and act clinical ! ( i underline sometimes)
ReplyDeleteIf you look at your entire Blog in retrospect, this is one of your finest pieces. Great work, and the blog sums you up in a lot of ways that I have personally witnessed you!
ReplyDeletevery true... happens with me most of the time.. but please telme how to kill expectations and how to have patience!! its killing n its like end of the world at times.. tiring... but still i dont want to give up.. to let it be is also extremely difficult..
ReplyDeleteSumedha: It is very humane to have expectations. We are all governed by our emotions, after all. But the key is to hold yourself high when things go wrong. There is no clear cut formula to be happy. But what I believe is that whoever loves you, will never leave you.
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