Is NO a negative word? Sometimes it really is not. I personally know of people who are so giving by nature that it is hard for them to say no to anything. Let it be work, family or relationships they always end up giving. But human beings that they are, they can't run away from the feeling of expectations. When you give someone, it is natural to expect something back also. When you give a lot, more than may be what the other person even deserves it is quite obvious that you are draining yourself of all the precious emotions, efforts and time. Those emotions, efforts and time sometimes (or may I say most of the times) are not reciprocated. This is where the problem arise. You end up giving so much that your own stock of precious things is empty!
Sometimes it is the fear of rejection or the high of likability by all that makes it difficult to say a No. Sometimes you love someone so much that you can not say them No. You fear that your No will take them away from you or it might stop them from liking you. This has happened to even the most strong, confident and smart people I know.
Whoever has to walk off your life, will eventually walk off. You can not possibly tie them. It is the path they choose, to walk off. It is their wish. You can only wish to get out of the hurt. If only you could have said No when it was not possible to give, you would have probably been in less pain.
Learn to say No. There are things you can do and there are things you can't. Whoever walks off when you say No, surely do not deserve you. The best you can do then is is to let them go and forget them.
And the ones that have stayed on, when you told them you possibly can't do what they expect of you but you still care, are the most awesome ones :) Do NOT forget to tell them that!
© Written by Garima Mahajan
Sometimes it is the fear of rejection or the high of likability by all that makes it difficult to say a No. Sometimes you love someone so much that you can not say them No. You fear that your No will take them away from you or it might stop them from liking you. This has happened to even the most strong, confident and smart people I know.
Whoever has to walk off your life, will eventually walk off. You can not possibly tie them. It is the path they choose, to walk off. It is their wish. You can only wish to get out of the hurt. If only you could have said No when it was not possible to give, you would have probably been in less pain.
Learn to say No. There are things you can do and there are things you can't. Whoever walks off when you say No, surely do not deserve you. The best you can do then is is to let them go and forget them.
And the ones that have stayed on, when you told them you possibly can't do what they expect of you but you still care, are the most awesome ones :) Do NOT forget to tell them that!
© Written by Garima Mahajan
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