Letters to my daughter. Part 2

Dearest Ridhiema

You are one of the most beautiful gifts I have ever received. You are also one of my best learning experiences. From you, I have learnt that no matter how tough the situation is, true love is always unconditional. I am sharing some more experiences with you. And like before, this time also, you are not entitled to pick everything. I shall respect your choice, if you disagree with me.

1. Positivity helps

This world is mainly a beautiful place. But sometimes a few things make it harsh. God made his temple from love. Man made his temple from love.  Man made his temple from love. 

No matter what happens, don’t let negative people or thoughts take hold of you. The choice between being an optimist or a pessimist will remain right there in front of you. Choose with your heart but choose wisely!

2. Gender is only a thought

In this world, there are men and there are women. They are made up differently. And this is where the difference ends. Really. There is no difference beyond this. But when you will step out of the house, you will see that there is an ugly thing called 'discrimination on the basis of gender'. This means that men and women are supposed to live and act differently. You will see many instances that will disgust you the way women and men are treated differently. But beta, never buy that. These are made by age old philosophies that did not hold any merit at that time, nor at this time. See this, confront it, face it. But never accept it and make it your choice.

3. Grieve if you must

Beta, grief is a real thing. It is as real as life. You will face sadness and you will face happiness. Just the way, it is important to smile, it is equally important to grieve. Don't try to run away from grief. Grief is very private. It is your closest way of learning lessons life imparts you. It is okay to be sad. The world will ask you to hasten your grief and move on, because it likes happy, smiling faces. But you take your time. Take deep breaths and small steps while coming out of grief. Live the grief part, only then would you learn the lesson God was trying to teach you about life. It will help you go a long way. 

4. Trust the broken souls

We are all broken in parts. Some are broken apart, some in parts, some are healing and some have marks. But I have always believed that 'there is a crack in everything. That is how light passes through'. Trust people who show their broken parts. They are the ones who have the courage to show their imperfections and sadness. Perfection and complete happiness is only for social media, for facebooks and instagrams. Real people have real issues. Have empathy with people who are going through tough time. In personal relationships, it is all about dealing with the flawed parts. 

5. Do not get carried away

Beta, this one I speak from a lot of experience. Always build boundaries. Always. By building boundaries, you will create a surrounding to protect yourself, so that people will not take you for a ride. Set your standards, build your boundary and behave that way. I have seen in life that you will get what you continue to let be. 

You will always be very important to me. You have a piece of my heart and I want you to handle yourself with care. 

© Written by Garima Mahajan